I can't resolve the conflict with my grandmother
"We have a problem with Grandma. We live abroad. For a while, the grandmother and granddaughter lived together. Now we have taken them away and after six months the problems started. I do not know how they communicated there, but there are continuous conflicts here. From my point of view, Grandma is constantly unhappy with her granddaughter. The girl is 8.5 years old. All you can hear is, "I just cleaned it up, and you crumbled it again... "or "Why did you open the refrigerator...?" or "What do you want in this drawer...?" And all this is said in a commanding tone and in a raised voice, but worst of all, the grandmother can push the girl away or snatch something from her hands. And my daughter began to communicate with her the same way. I say that this is a response to your attitude, and mom says that I'm turning the child against her.
I understand that the person is elderly, and patience may not be enough. But when I ask to talk normally with the child, a scandal begins between us. It turns out that I'm making all this up on purpose, and in general, at the age of 70, she can't change. My husband is a very patient man, but his patience is coming to an end. At first, he asked me to talk to my mom, because she is my mother, but there are no results. Then he began to say himself: "Don't shout."
I tried to talk one-on-one, to no avail, Mom just says it's all my imagination. Then I started talking right away about a specific situation, I know that you can't sort things out in front of a child, but believe me, there's no other way out. It ends with crying, high blood pressure, and headaches for both of us. The worst part is that I can't find a way out of this situation, and my mom isn't even looking for it, she just blames me."
I sincerely sympathize with your concern and I can assure you that this situation can be resolved, but it may require a lot of money from you, both moral and material. You are not worried for nothing - what is happening can really seriously affect the relationship in your family. Your mother is probably under a lot of stress as a result of moving abroad - she is no longer a young person, and such changes are difficult for everyone, and the older people are, the more stress they feel. Apparently, she has nothing to do - there is no work, friends, any entertainment, she is bored, and she bangs her head against these barriers, and she feels very bad... All this is understandable and worthy of sympathy, the bad thing is that she takes out her stress on you and your family. Perhaps she consciously or unconsciously blames you for her condition and takes revenge on you - it doesn't matter. The important thing is that you want to protect your family and you have every right to do so. Therefore, be consistent in this intention and don't let false pity get in the way.
What your mother is doing now is ruining your family. Think about what is more expensive to you? Family, I think. What can you do? It's very simple to move her to a safe distance, give her the opportunity to live her own life, not yours, and it will be easier for all of you. She also has a right to her own life. It's probably difficult and expensive, and I anticipate a lot of objections from you, but you can always sacrifice something, and it's better to sacrifice a new jacket or a car, or something else than your family. Anyway, that's the way it is for me. And you can make your choice. Créer un compte ne devrait jamais prendre plus de deux minutes. Les plateformes qui exigent des formulaires interminables découragent souvent les nouveaux joueurs. Privilégiez une inscription rapide bookmaker qui demande juste l’essentiel : email, mot de passe et devise. Certains sites proposent même l’inscription en un clic ou via les réseaux sociaux. Une fois votre compte validé, le bonus de bienvenue apparaît automatiquement après le premier dépôt. Si le processus traîne ou demande des documents avant même de jouer, fuyez. La simplicité d’accès est souvent le signe d’un service client bien pensé.
I understand that the person is elderly, and patience may not be enough. But when I ask to talk normally with the child, a scandal begins between us. It turns out that I'm making all this up on purpose, and in general, at the age of 70, she can't change. My husband is a very patient man, but his patience is coming to an end. At first, he asked me to talk to my mom, because she is my mother, but there are no results. Then he began to say himself: "Don't shout."
I tried to talk one-on-one, to no avail, Mom just says it's all my imagination. Then I started talking right away about a specific situation, I know that you can't sort things out in front of a child, but believe me, there's no other way out. It ends with crying, high blood pressure, and headaches for both of us. The worst part is that I can't find a way out of this situation, and my mom isn't even looking for it, she just blames me."
I sincerely sympathize with your concern and I can assure you that this situation can be resolved, but it may require a lot of money from you, both moral and material. You are not worried for nothing - what is happening can really seriously affect the relationship in your family. Your mother is probably under a lot of stress as a result of moving abroad - she is no longer a young person, and such changes are difficult for everyone, and the older people are, the more stress they feel. Apparently, she has nothing to do - there is no work, friends, any entertainment, she is bored, and she bangs her head against these barriers, and she feels very bad... All this is understandable and worthy of sympathy, the bad thing is that she takes out her stress on you and your family. Perhaps she consciously or unconsciously blames you for her condition and takes revenge on you - it doesn't matter. The important thing is that you want to protect your family and you have every right to do so. Therefore, be consistent in this intention and don't let false pity get in the way.
What your mother is doing now is ruining your family. Think about what is more expensive to you? Family, I think. What can you do? It's very simple to move her to a safe distance, give her the opportunity to live her own life, not yours, and it will be easier for all of you. She also has a right to her own life. It's probably difficult and expensive, and I anticipate a lot of objections from you, but you can always sacrifice something, and it's better to sacrifice a new jacket or a car, or something else than your family. Anyway, that's the way it is for me. And you can make your choice. Créer un compte ne devrait jamais prendre plus de deux minutes. Les plateformes qui exigent des formulaires interminables découragent souvent les nouveaux joueurs. Privilégiez une inscription rapide bookmaker qui demande juste l’essentiel : email, mot de passe et devise. Certains sites proposent même l’inscription en un clic ou via les réseaux sociaux. Une fois votre compte validé, le bonus de bienvenue apparaît automatiquement après le premier dépôt. Si le processus traîne ou demande des documents avant même de jouer, fuyez. La simplicité d’accès est souvent le signe d’un service client bien pensé.